|Having messy pants didn't stop me|
from playing. I was quite content
to sit in my own poo.
Finally, staying in messy pants was a way of coping with what I increasingly thought of as my babyish habit. By ignoring my accidents and carrying on with what I was doing, I could pretend that my pants were not dirty and I had not soiled myself again. For that relatively short period I could be a normal child and enjoy playing or reading or whatever I was doing, and put to the back of my mind the fact that I was smelly and messy and had behaved more like a toddler than an older child.
|Unless I was really stinky, I would|
play with other children when
I knew my pants were dirty.
Even if their parents are very understanding about their soiling problems and would not punish them, the child is still likely to feel embarrassed about the situation like I did and feel unable to report their accidents. Eventually they are given away by the stench produced by the stash of hidden underwear or the fact that the child is running out of clean pants. But as Dimity Telfer says in her blog The Magic Within Us about why she hid her soiled underwear, 'When your choices are to be yelled at now or yelled at tomorrow, I chose the second option. I hid them because I wanted to live for an hour (even half an hour) as if it never happened."